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I do it for the children, and it's not a walk in the park: Parents' stories about how to maintain cooperative co‐parenting during the divorce process

Year: 2022

Type: article

Abstract: This article explores the transition of cooperative co‐parenting during the divorce process. Eighteen parents, representing eight co‐parenting pairs and two individuals who had just undergone mandatory mediation for parents applying for separation, participated in the study. Through in‐depth interviews with parents who were classified as cooperative during the mediation process, we examined how theyreasonand the struggles they face during the divorce transition. The study applied a sociocultural perspective, focusing on the cultural ideals of equal parenthood, and used the concepts ofboundariesandshared careas analytical tools. A main finding is that maintaining cooperative co‐parenting requires hard work, even in no‐or low‐conflict divorces, but the parents do it for their children. The results showed that the transforming process involved efforts to (1) continue established parenting practices, (2) shield the children and (3) deal with their own emotions. The underlying premises for successful co‐parenting are trust in each other's ability to take care of the children and their own knowledge of the emotional bonds between the children and each parent. In turn, these premises motivate parents to manage their own emotional turmoil.

Source: Child & Family Social Work

DOI: 10.1111/cfs.12928

Authors: Trine Eikrem, Kari Sjøhelle Jevne

Institutions: Norwegian Institute of Public Health, University of Oslo, OsloMet – Oslo Metropolitan University

Language: English

Topic: Family Dynamics and Relationships

Subfield: Demography

Field: Social Sciences

Domain: Social Sciences

Open Access status: hybrid

Estimated APC paid: $3,650

Funders: Universitetet i Oslo, Norwegian Institute of Public Health