SAE Parent-Child Theory Paper 7: Handing Over and Leading / SAE 亲子论 Paper 7: 交出与引领
Year: 2026
Type: preprint
Abstract: This paper reads the last stretch of the parent-child relation this series reads: coming of age, handing over, and leading. Coming of age is read structurally as the child's 14DD coming to stand: his own cannot-not has taken shape; it arrives domain by domain, not all on one day; coming of age in law is acknowledged but not judged. Where, in some matter, his negation-gate can already run of itself, the position of raising and refusing in that matter becomes his own at once, and no one may seal it; this is not further conditioned on his 14DD already having come to stand. Being able to raise something is not the same as having it come to stand: whether the arrangement in that matter changes, if it also involves the parents' end or others, is read by each party's own law and by the dealings. In matters of his own direction, the parents do not interpret or avow in his place; how the securing layer is drawn back is not conditional on which road he takes, and in drawing back the two senses of dependency are checked. On the child's side, the test is that he is able to unfold without revolving around his father, and also able to unfold without revolving around his mother, read person by person; this is a test, not that he must in fact leave; being able is limited to constitutive independence, not real-world self-sufficiency. Once 14DD has come to stand, what remains is mainly leading: the effect of leading can only be by personal demonstration; it is not a position with authority, and does not extend the structure of the parent-child relation; this does not widen into all later dealings being allowed only demonstration; ordinary exchange and things done together are read by Relation Theory and Cooperation Theory. The child's own 15DD is his own affair. Leading is read until it becomes one face of family affection between adults; no endpoint is set. From then on, what lies between parents and adult children is read by Relation Theory and Cooperation Theory, and conflict by the Conflict Treatise; the case of long-term care needed after coming of age is handed to a future series on relations of care. This paper interfaces with Locke, Kant and Gibran, and registers the material of Fu Lei's Letters. It does not prove that a child ought to leave once grown, nor that leading is bound to be seen, nor that the parent-child relation has an endpoint. --- 这一篇读这个系列所读的亲子关系的最后一段:成年,交出,与引领。成年,结构上读作孩子的 14DD 站住:他自己的不得不成型了;它一域一域到,不是某一天一起到;法律上的成年,认而不判。在某一件事上他的否定门已能自行,那一件事上提出与回绝的位置即刻归他本人,谁也封不得;这不另以他的 14DD 已经站住为条件。能提出,不等于提出得成:那件事上的安排改不改,若也牵着父母那一端或别人,照各方各自的法与来往读。涉及他自己的方向,父母不代替他解释与认领;保障一层怎样收,不挂在他走哪一条路上,收的时候照依赖两义核。 在孩子那一侧,检验是他能够不再围绕父亲而展开,也能够不再围绕母亲而展开,逐人读;这是检验,不是他事实上必须离开;能够,限为构成独立,不是现实自足。14DD 站住以后,剩下的主要是引领:引领这一作用只能以身示范,不是一个有权限的位置,不把亲子的结构延长下去;这不扩大成此后的全部来往都只准示范,普通的交流、一起做的事,照关系论、合作论读。孩子自己的 15DD 是他自己的事。 引领读到它成为成年人之间亲情的一面为止,不设终点。此后父母与成年子女之间,照关系论与合作论读,冲突照冲突论读;成年以后需要长期照料的情形,交将来的照护关系系列。这一篇与洛克、康德、纪伯伦对接,并登记《傅雷家书》这一材料。它不证明孩子成年以后应当离开,不证明引领一定被看见,也不证明亲子之间有一个终点。 English and Chinese editions in one record. The English edition is an independent rewrite of the Chinese text, not a translation; where the two differ, the Chinese governs. Related works: Cites · Publication / Preprint · DOI(11) 10.5281/zenodo.23545047 10.5281/zenodo.23545076 10.5281/zenodo.23819201 10.5281/zenodo.23819255 10.5281/zenodo.24029128 10.5281/zenodo.22313628 10.5281/zenodo.21314907 10.5281/zenodo.22731235 10.5281/zenodo.23874154 10.5281/zenodo.18867389 10.5281/zenodo.19491926
Author: Qin, Han
Language: English
Subfield: Sociology and Political Science
Field: Social Sciences
Domain: Social Sciences
Open Access status: green
OpenAlex ID: W7225790710
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